We all get angry every now and then and usually express it in some sort of way so that the headaches and stress level that eventually will make you sick are alleviated. The so-called “getting it off your chest”. Well, there are thousands of people that can’t do that effectively and suffer from what is called anger disorder.

One way that an anger disorder will manifest itself is if you find yourself yelling and screaming, carrying on to your co-workers ad nauseam; shouting over and over at your family and friends. People begin to avoid you, steer clear of you, walk on eggshells when around you simply from the way you handle your anger. This type of disorder can progress from yelling to door slamming, bullying, name calling, ridiculing, finger pointing—-on and on until no one really wants to associate with you.

Another side of an anger disorder could be that of total anger suppression, where you never get angry at all and keep everything locked up inside. The trouble with that is that you will build up to the point internally that you will eventually explode and say and do things you normally would not. And your health suffers from this kind of activity: you may suffer from depression as a result, or are tired all the time because of the force needed to hold all that anger in all the time. Also, your immune system will be affected and you will begin to feel sick a good share of the time that will eventually progress into more serious afflictions.

There are folks who suffer from a type of anger disorder that makes them addicted to anger and to rage, so much so, that the addiction to anger becomes so great that they want to release the anger over and over because it feels so good. They suffer from a compulsive-addictive pattern that occurs time and time again, and many times, something like that is the result of unsolved grief.

Passive-aggressive behavior is a term we hear a lot when referring to an anger disorder or a psychological diagnosis; but it is a very real disorder and sometimes referred to as “sideways anger” because folks just can’t help doing it and the behavior operates on an unconscious level. Things like kidding someone unmercifully, or teasing and teasing until the person who is the brunt of this action ends up with hurt feelings. You are using humor as a weapon and you are attacking a victim with it. Other manifestations of this anger disorder are sarcasm and cynicism—-making a statement about your victim but doing so in the form of a seemingly innocent question like “Are you sure you want wear that dress?”—-a loaded question.

Think of the number of times you have seen someone so totally out of control with their anger and rage, that they were literally frothing at the mouth, face beet red, veins protruding in their neck, and unresponsive to outside interference trying to defuse the situation. This is a type of anger disorder called intermittent explosive disorder and it is an actual diagnosed disorder. The anger and rage is so pronounced and so over the top, that it does not fit the situation at hand at all and can lead to dire consequences for all involved.

We all feel anger and rage sometimes when our lives and the people around us pressure us to the point of no return; but if we are not suffering from an anger disorder, we usually just vent the anger in a constructive way and get on with the business at hand. That is not the case for people who suffer from these disorders, and unless they get the help they need to control their impulses; their lives will always be plagued with outbursts, social alienation, and physical discomfort.

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